A Pair and a Spare

February 1, 2023 Kimberly Mcdowell

Not too far below this middle-aged, round, Mom-Bod surface is a smoking hot core of divine womanly deliciousness and I’m willing to bet that your core is made of the same. The gift of aging comes with its share of wins and how should I put it, modifications. I’m here for it all though! So today just in time for the big day of love, I’m tapping into that core to discuss my love for all things shoes. Especially those that sparkle.

Now I have to disclose that Hubby buys 95% of my shoes and 100% of the fun sparkly shoes so please give him all the credit. Every time a box enters the house I play coy and say “ George, you shouldn’t have, stop wasting money on shoes for me”. But what I’m really thinking is OMG I love them! Don’t Stop! I will also add that most of these shoes are NOT made for walking. I repeat, NOT made for walking. They are made for drop me at the door so I only walk to our table and will be seated for the rest of the night. Crazy right? You’re probably thinking why not get more practical shoes? Well beauty isn’t practical and sometimes I want to feel down right stunningly breathtaking with my shoes I will not be walking in. You feel me?

For me as a plus size woman, shoes have always been that extra something that worked when the stores didn’t always have the right size or fit in clothes. For some reason the shoes always worked. I love how they transform your posture. Your walk turns into a strut. You’re no longer walking like a cowboy, as my grandmother would say, you’re taking dainty steps. I love the femininity that comes with a high heel too, especially the look of my arch. If your feet could purr, high heels would certainly do the trick.

So to get your juices flowing and inspire the sexy in you, I am sharing with you a handful of my favorite glass slippers. I wish I could rank according to favorite but there is no such thing. My shoes receive equal opportunity favor in this house. I am not necessarily a label person, I like what I like, so what you see is just my personal preference for whatever mood I may be in that day.

Now that you’ve met the family, I hope you were entertained and inspired to bring your sexy this month even if it’s in the smallest way.

Until next time,

-K

While I'm Here.... I May As Well Enjoy Myself!

August 15, 2022 Kimberly Mcdowell

Dress: Fashion Nova Shoes: J-Lo (DSW) Earrings: T.J. Maxx
Make-up: Urban Decay Violet Palette and Pat McGrath Celestial Divinity Collection

Whewww! It’s been a strong minute since I’ve chatted with you guys. I’ve missed you! How have you been??? Who me? I’m holding on by a thread but I’m holding on. So much has been going on! Your girl is swiftly approaching the ripe age of 46 on August 28th. I’ve been doing quite a bit of event planning lately and have finally gotten back to soaping. On top of the busy, I got Covid and we lost a very close member on my husband’s side of the family. So many ups and downs I’ve begun to lose count. Buttt! Today is not a woe is me message, Oh no. Today is a message of contentment and acceptance while continuing on this journey to greater. I really didn’t come to preach today but a few things have resonated with me and caused me to take a closer look at what I’ve been wishing for versus what I already have. Come take a walk with me.

The Daily Mirror Conversation

Girl, I have saved so many YouTube workout videos for this imaginary workout regiment I’ve been trying to do since I can remember. Who isn’t on some sort of wellness/fitness journey? My friend and I were talking about our weight loss goals and the plans we have when we reach those goals but one day I said, I’m not waiting until the weight is gone to enjoy adorning this body. These big legs, hips, thighs, belly, and breasts are here right now so I’m choosing to love and beautifully decorate this body while I’m here and right where I am.

2. Create a Life You Don’t Need a Vacation From

Well, you have certainly heard me say this a time or two or twenty. I look at social media and all the cool places and things out there to do. Then I look over at the couch I’m always sitting on. I immediately get overwhelmed by the cost, the time off from work, and a host of other duties wrapped up in taking time away from your ordinary life. And plus I don’t want to wait. Make your space a retreat so you don’t have to long for a getaway to actually feel recharged. Or stop limiting yourself to planning some extravagant trip when a little weekend hiatus will do just fine. Even if its a trip to my backyard to look up at the stars with 5-star cocktails in hand, Beyonce’ playing on the speakers, and talking to my favorite guy. This definitely isn’t me talking myself out of a nice trip, we all need that, but while I’m here…. I’m going to learn to enjoy those backyard moments even more.

3. Stop Expecting You From Other People

I’ve let myself down a lot lately expecting others to think or behave or even feel as I do. Stop it. This is self-sabotage. I’ve listened to a lot of opinions and commentary and philosophies over the past few weeks and I’m shocked that I still get disappointed when people don’t do as I think or treat people as I would. Crazy right?! My expectations are what’s letting me down. I keep expecting me from them and that’s impossible. Be you, do good, be generous, be kind because you want to do it and don’t make it contingent upon someone else’s actions. And when you don’t feel like doing, Don’t. It’s as simple as that. Soooooo while I’m here….. I will be the best me for my satisfaction and not others.

Thanks for listening yall! Until next time.

-K

A Change of A Dress

April 25, 2021 Kimberly Mcdowell

Hey everybody! I tell you, the first quarter of the year is always a whirlwind for me. Jam packed with birthdays and anniversary celebrations. We had even more to celebrate this year with the birth of my grand niece and my oldest son’s upcoming graduation. Now that the dust is slowly settling, I can get back to myself and all things girly.

I wanted to take a moment to reflect on all the things I love about my femininity. I’m all for equality but I completely adore all of my womaness. Our softness, our tremendous strength that isn’t normally reflected by the size of physical muscles, our ability to create more with anything we’re given, our flexibility, creativity, and most of all, our CURVES. It shocks me to this day to remember how much of a tomboy I was growing up. I still am to a degree but nowadays, its more like a refined tomboy. Seems fitting for a mother of two boys.

Its so easy to step out of my tomboy mindset though with a simple change of a dress. My love affair with dresses happened just a short time ago. It’s a complete outfit in itself! One piece and done! My second favorite thing about dresses is that you can choose something as comfortable or as structured as you prefer. Especially the ones that make your curves sing! Today we’re checking out my more recent spring additions to the dress family and the relaxed mood they reflect.

Crisp White Linen

Dress - H&M, Earrings - Ginen Wrap , Bracelets - Amazon, Shoes - Jessica Simpson

Calming Blue

Burst of Color

Earthy Olive

Terracotta Eyelet

I’m loving all the beautiful sundresses in the rich earthy tones. My vibe right now is elevated comfort. I’m not interested in wearing any form of spanx right now. So if you’re with me, give me a Yassss Honey!

Until next time,

-K

Curvyscaping: Holiday Sparkle for a Wild Night In!

December 20, 2020 Kimberly Mcdowell

I can’t believe Christmas is only five days away! Celebrations are a little different this year but why not put on a little holiday sparkle for even the quaintest of gatherings. Even though a wild night these days look more like movies and baking cookies, I decided to bring a few special clothes out of the closet and have a little fun. Who says you can’t bake cookies in a festive outfit? Come join me!