Whewww! It’s been a strong minute since I’ve chatted with you guys. I’ve missed you! How have you been??? Who me? I’m holding on by a thread but I’m holding on. So much has been going on! Your girl is swiftly approaching the ripe age of 46 on August 28th. I’ve been doing quite a bit of event planning lately and have finally gotten back to soaping. On top of the busy, I got Covid and we lost a very close member on my husband’s side of the family. So many ups and downs I’ve begun to lose count. Buttt! Today is not a woe is me message, Oh no. Today is a message of contentment and acceptance while continuing on this journey to greater. I really didn’t come to preach today but a few things have resonated with me and caused me to take a closer look at what I’ve been wishing for versus what I already have. Come take a walk with me.

1. The Daily Mirror Conversation

Girl, I have saved so many YouTube workout videos for this imaginary workout regiment I’ve been trying to do since I can remember. Who isn’t on some sort of wellness/fitness journey? My friend and I were talking about our weight loss goals and the plans we have when we reach those goals but one day I said, I’m not waiting until the weight is gone to enjoy adorning this body. These big legs, hips, thighs, belly, and breasts are here right now so I’m choosing to love and beautifully decorate this body while I’m here and right where I am.

2. Create a Life You Don’t Need a Vacation From

Well, you have certainly heard me say this a time or two or twenty. I look at social media and all the cool places and things out there to do. Then I look over at the couch I’m always sitting on. I immediately get overwhelmed by the cost, the time off from work, and a host of other duties wrapped up in taking time away from your ordinary life. And plus I don’t want to wait. Make your space a retreat so you don’t have to long for a getaway to actually feel recharged. Or stop limiting yourself to planning some extravagant trip when a little weekend hiatus will do just fine. Even if its a trip to my backyard to look up at the stars with 5-star cocktails in hand, Beyonce’ playing on the speakers, and talking to my favorite guy. This definitely isn’t me talking myself out of a nice trip, we all need that, but while I’m here…. I’m going to learn to enjoy those backyard moments even more.

3. Stop Expecting You From Other People

I’ve let myself down a lot lately expecting others to think or behave or even feel as I do. Stop it. This is self-sabotage. I’ve listened to a lot of opinions and commentary and philosophies over the past few weeks and I’m shocked that I still get disappointed when people don’t do as I think or treat people as I would. Crazy right?! My expectations are what’s letting me down. I keep expecting me from them and that’s impossible. Be you, do good, be generous, be kind because you want to do it and don’t make it contingent upon someone else’s actions. And when you don’t feel like doing, Don’t. It’s as simple as that. Soooooo while I’m here….. I will be the best me for my satisfaction and not others.

Thanks for listening yall! Until next time.

-K